The Story of Us
Helping families turn the whirlwind of everyday life into a story they will treasure forever
The internet is full of parenting advice. How to handle tantrums, How to set boundaries, How to get kids to bed. There's a place for that, if that's what you need, I encourage you to seek it.
But after having coached 1000+ parents from a diverse range of cultures and children's personality, I have found something fundamentally more important, something that most people never even talk about:
The power of story you're writing inside your head.
This is how my clients describe it...
Jen, American mother of 2:
I'm in awe of how you get to the root of an issue and help us to think about how we're thinking and processing things. It's not advice you're giving; it's a new lens and realization that we can change the beliefs that we've picked up along the years. My husband and I both got so much out of the chat and we will be watching the replay for months and years to come.
(Names are fictional for confidentiality, clients are real)
Mark, German father of 3:
I've had the honor of knowing Nicolò through our time in a year+ parent coaching program and made incredible mindset and strategy shifts as a result. He has a way of finding & following the threads of our life struggles and weaving them together to create a fundamentally bigger and better picture.
(Names are fictional for confidentiality, clients are real)
Busy with our career, swamped with competing to-do lists, addicted to our phones, we sometimes show up for our family as just "getting it done" and hoping it turns out well.
But deep down, you know there is something more.
Let me tell you a quick story...
Hi, this is me, 7-year old Nicolò.
You wouldn’t know it, but that moment changed my life.
I was petting the cats, in the sunny yard of the house I grew up in, in Italy.
My dad paused what he was doing and stood still for a moment. I could feel his eyes on us. Then he said with a gentle voice:
“Sarai proprio uno bravo papà” - You’re gonna be such a great dad.
In that moment - I can still feel my hand on the cat's soft fur - for the first time in my life, I saw myself as a father. It felt beautiful, inspiring, emotional. And I knew it was true. That moment became part of my identity.
It happened because of how my dad chose to author that moment.
This wasn't about managing a tantrum.
He could have moved on and kept busy.
He could have said nothing.
He could have made clever observations about cats.
But he chose to tell a story of fatherhood, of joy and destiny. And he shared it with me.
Some families consciously author the everyday moments of their lives, daring to weave a story that leads them to thrive.
What story are you living in?
Whether you realize it or not, right now you're writing the story of your family.
A story inside your head is defining every aspect of your parenting - for better or for worse.
These are the stories most people live in...
The Survival Story
"I'm just trying to get through each day"
You're sleep-deprived, overwhelmed, running on empty. Every day feels like putting out fires. You love your kids deeply, but you've lost the plot of your own life. The story you're telling yourself is all about what you're lacking, what's going wrong, what you can't handle.
The Reactive Story
"Things happen to us and we deal with them"
You've got the basics down, but everything feels like crisis management. You're responding to tantrums, managing schedules, putting out emotional fires. You want to be intentional, but you're always playing catch-up. Your story feels like you're a character in someone else's script.
The Disconnected Story
"We're all living parallel lives under the same roof"
You love your family, but sometimes feel like ships passing in the night. Between work, school, activities and smartphones, there's not much space for real intimacy. You want deeper connection, but you're not sure how to weave your separate experiences into a shared story.
The Uncertainty Story
"I''m not sure what kind of parent I want to be"
You don't have traditions and rituals that anchor your family to a powerful storyline. And you often second-guess yourself. "Am I being too strict? Too lenient? What's my parenting philosophy?". You're not sure what story you're trying to tell with your family life.
The Scattered Story
"We have good moments, but they don't feel connected to something bigger"
You're already intentional about family life. You create special moments and have meaningful conversations. But it often feels scattered, like beautiful snapshots that don't quite add up to a coherent narrative. You want to weave it all into something that tastes like adventure and legacy.
Wherever you are today, you get to choose how the story continues.
Would you love to experience every day with your family as an opportunity to...
Wake up knowing exactly who you want to be as a parent, instead of flip-flopping, reacting from stress and hoping you get it right?
Transform the hardest parenting moments into family wisdom, so every challenge becomes part of your growing strength?
Feel immersed in the family story you're writing together, instead of wondering where the time went and if any of it mattered?
Introducing
The Story Of Us
Helping families turn the whirlwind of everyday life into a story they will treasure forever
The Story of Us is a family authoring approach based on two powerful pillars:
1️⃣ STORY. Craft a rich and inspiring narrative – including your values, your dreams, the journey that got you here, the traditions you want to establish, the legacy you want to leave and the "why" behind your choices.
2️⃣ PRACTICE. Once you know your story, you need simple daily practices that help you live it consistently, even in the chaos.
Most parenting programs focus on techniques, schedules, or behavior management. They instruct you on what to do to handle situations better, but rarely help you discover who you want to be while handling them. But the secret to joyful, meaningful parenting isn't about knowing all the "tricks".
When your parenting flows from a story you choose to author, it stops feeling like a problem you have to solve and starts feeling like an adventure you get to create.
Picture this:
Your 4-year-old melts down at the store because you bought the wrong cookies. The package of cookies is on the floor - as your crying toddler. Other shoppers are staring. Your heart pounds. You feel heat, embarrassment, frustration.
In the past, you would have told yourself a story of this being nonsense and blurted out: "Stop making a scene!".
But today, you see an opportunity to become the person you want to be when life gets hard. A chance to model how humans work through big feelings together. A moment to help your child learn how to handle disappointment.
In a split second, you choose to kneel down and say: "You're really upset about those cookies". Your child hugs you. The crisis is gone. Your bond feels more solid than ever.
Or this moment:
It's 6 AM and your preschooler crawls into bed, their hair still messy from sleep, traces your face with tiny fingers, and whispers "Mama, I like to give you lots of kisses". Your heart breaks open with joy so powerful it almost hurts.
You want to freeze this moment forever. The weight of their small body against yours, the complete trust in their voice, the way the morning light filters through the curtains in this pocket of awe.
But by 7:30, you're rushing through breakfast and snapping about shoes. The gap between the parent you are in quiet moments and the parent you become under pressure feels impossible to bridge. You wonder: How do I carry the tenderness of 6 AM into the chaos of 7:30?
Every ordinary moment is a chance to write an extraordinary story...
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